Today was Moose's Christmas party and it went pretty well. He's been VERY defiant at school and at home lately. You tell him one thing and he wants the opposite - fairly consistently. But he ended up standing up and singing with his classmates (definitely not as well as he did at church but he could see me today). Overall a really good party.
Then I get home and read his planner notes for today. "Kept wanting a gun at school (used a block). I finally had to get really firm (no guns at school - we don't want to hear it again - Mr. G [the principal] says no guns at school). Then [Moose] said, "I'm getting frustrated. I want to go home." He says this quite often when told NO."
What do I do? I can't think of where he would pick up guns from. Yes, he watched The Fox and the Hound, but that doesn't sound like a rifle he was wanting if he used a block. And he's never pretended to use a gun at home, ever! I'm scouring my mind to wrap it around this. I guess, on one hand, it's good he used something as something else (a block as a gun) - shows some imagination. But what do I do? I'm not 100% guns - I don't mind hunting (not that I want to do it) and of course, I like that our police force and military have them to keep us safe. But how do I explain that to my 4-year-old. Maybe another 4yo would understand those roles, but I don't think mine would. Advice??
And then the defiance. He opposes almost everything I say. It's time to play - he goes and sits on the couch. It's time to pick up - "no it's time to play cars." No more tv - meltdown. He and Squirt both say "I am so frustrated" when they get upset or get told no. It's so frustrating (pun intended). I do NOT want a disobedient child. I'm trying my best but it's not cutting it. Any suggestions?