Do you ever have days where it feels like you yell at your kids all day? Today ended up being one of those days for me. Big A came home to me crying and Moose just having been done crying. I can't seem to get Moose to really listen to me. He keeps doing stuff, like messing with the computer or turning the tv on and off, that I tell him not to do and it just ticks me off so bad. And I think maybe he feels I'm not spending enough (as much?) time with him. But I don't think I interact any less with him (I mean, Squirt sleeps all day so there's not a heck of a lot of interacting with him).
And...maybe this is wrong, but I feel like I'm having a hard time bonding with Squirt. I love him, I really do. I just feel like it's really really different between us than it is between Moose & I. Did anyone else feel like this with their second? I feel bad about it but I just can't help it.
Sorry if I've been a Debbie Downer lately. This is sometimes the only place I can get stuff off my chest - and, let's face it, some of you with kids have some great advice or at least have been there and can say "it's ok." And sometimes that's all I need.
And...maybe this is wrong, but I feel like I'm having a hard time bonding with Squirt. I love him, I really do. I just feel like it's really really different between us than it is between Moose & I. Did anyone else feel like this with their second? I feel bad about it but I just can't help it.
Sorry if I've been a Debbie Downer lately. This is sometimes the only place I can get stuff off my chest - and, let's face it, some of you with kids have some great advice or at least have been there and can say "it's ok." And sometimes that's all I need.
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It doesn't help that you still have hormones going thru your body like mad to exacerbate the situation. And ten hours (plus his travel time) is a LONG time when you're dealing with a 2 year old and a newborn.
The bonding is so much harder because you have a toddler to watch and then either screams whenever you HAVE to pay attention to the other.
I have those days. Still. And Now I can blame pregnancy hormones, but I couldn't for the longest time.
It's good to have a place to be able to get these feelings off your chest.
Hope your day got better. :) Hoped you got a great big hug from your Love. That usually makes it (a smidge) better for me. :)
I don't have a second but boy do I get feeling like I am yelling all day. Unfortunately for me it feels like every day!
Moose sounds like mine. They are probably around the same age. I think it's normal. They are boys and in a super exploring testing age when listening comes LAST! Just keep breathing! I know I'm trying here too. :)
I think it has a lot to do with the terrible 2s and just a smidge to do with feeling jealous. I have a toddler who doesn't have to compete with anyone for time and he acts like that all.the.time.
Don't be so hard on yourself about your feelings with the bonding. It is all going to be OK! I agree with the other mommies. It is hormones. Lack of sleep. BIG changes. Moose and Squirt know they are loved!